The Art of Seduction...

It's an awesome evening in the DMV and I feel like writing... the cool of the evening and breeze flowing through my window coupled with the soft smooth sounds of Neo-Soul has me thinking about how we've lost the art of seduction...


I think that women have given up on the vitality of how to gain the attention of a man. Many women are too busy trying to make sure that we're IN CONTROL, so that he doesn't take advantage of them...they have forgotten that the game can only be played when two people are playing and since they look at letting their guard down as losing the game play, they give up.. its okay to be in control, but its also okay to lose a little control and let him win...if you let him believe he's winning, than you too will win.. *get what I'm sayin'*


The dating game has lost its true essence! S-E-D-U-C-T-I-O-N... we (both men and women) need to awaken  our inner artistry of seducing the mind of the opposite sex and if you attract the mind of someone first, then the body will be sure to follow... I mean if you two are already in a decent enough conversation, than it's science that you're already attracted to one another. Someone needs it, wants it , and is waiting for it... hell, he's waiting for you sista... 


I'm going to offer some ideas that just might make the situation a little easier for us.. if you're not the type to do any of the things listed, and what you do works for you.. than its all great! Pass my post on to someone that YOU KNOW needs to read it.. LOL 


For the record... flirting WORKS.. it always get the man's attention... but what keeps him are other things that you will need to step outside the box for... *another post to be later developed depending on my mood*

1. A woman cannot be needy. Neediness and seduction are mutually exclusive. The more desperate you are, the less attracted a man will be. 
2. A woman must RELAX. The more comfortable you feel, the more comfortable a man feels around you, and the more receptive he will be to your affection.
3. A woman must be a flirt. Girl, be playful. Smile. Touch. Tease. Don't be too serious, people enjoy having a good time. Have fun with the guy you're with. Don't be scared, he won't bite... I mean, if you're lucky he will and you just might enjoy it. *Wink* But, seriously,  ENJOY THE GAME. Act like your the master of it...remember a woman invented the game. 
4. You cannot always be available.  what will you achieve if you are trying to meet with a man or talk to them every moment? If you're always available to them.. then, to him its a sign for him to run to the hills as fast as he can because you are going to be needy and you don't have nothing going on in your life besides pursuing him. Trust me, you'll be more desirable if you're a bit stand-offish and just slightly bitchy!!! Men are turned on by women that have a little fire under their skin... LOL *he'll say that he doesn't tho*
5. Make an effective use of body language. Move confidently. Most people are not attracted to wallflowers, but to people who are sure of themselves. Don't forget to smile and, if possible, make body contact when appropriate and not intrusive.
6. Don't be a completely open book. Leave something to the imagination. You should not share everything about you with the other person: mystery is always attractive. It makes people realize they don't know the whole you, and this secrecy will give off a seductive aura. However, don't be a completely closed book either.
7. Be patient. Wait for their desire for you to catch up with your desire for them. Believe that it's only a matter of time, that they just need to discover how awesome you really are. If you don't believe that, then you can't seduce anyone. But the fact is that we naturally become attracted to anyone who we feel comfortable with, makes us laugh, and is slightly out of reach (because of the thrill of the unknown). It's human nature.

Happy seducing!!!!


xo

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