compassion

I read an article about Compassion today. It awakened something within me.

The author wrote, “Compassion is the ability to see the deep connectedness between ourselves and others.” Her words were like Rhema to my spirit, and as I continued to read, Spirit simply spoke to me… “There you go, you align with compassion and understanding. You’ve been love all along.” This gave me something, something that I don’t have words to form, but feeling that I fully accept. But, THIS PART.... "we are called to shine a light inside ourselves and take responsibility for what we have disowned. It is at this juncture that we have the opportunity to transform from within."

The part(s) within that we have disowned... WOW... we are so quick to denounce and rebuke those parts that we do not like. Instead, we should accept and nurture, LOVE, and show compassion for those parts within us that we deem dark and hideous... so today, I am going to begin to love those parts of me that I use to ignore, hate even...

My Mantra: "I love the parts of me that struggle with setting boundaries and saying no to others because it helps me to see the forgiving, compassionate, understanding, and beautiful person that I am. I am unconditional love."

When we continue to hold space within us for the parts of us that stink, are ugly, or even an empty feeling that causes us to have dis-ease within us and often reflects outward in illness. Our emotional belief will always reflect outward. For instance, having an autoimmune disorder, such as rheumatoid arthritis (RA) is a self-attacking emotional belief. If, like me, you are healing from RA, I recommend starting with this article, The Energy Behind RA and allowing Spirit to move you into compassion and love beginning with yourself. Take a moment to reflect on this, I have no problem showing others compassion and understanding, but I am often overly critical of myself--no wonder my emotional well being is suffering.

As I embark on the love within, my intention is that God/Is/Spirit and My Ancestors will remind me each morning as I rise, to turn any form of indifference within me to compassion and love.

It is in our self reflection that we learn who we are not, and not so that we turn a blind eye and silent ear to what we find, but so that we can accept who we are, and transform what we learn into something of peace and love.

Join me by doing the following:

1. Acknowledge what you do not like. 
2. Accept that even though you do not like this part of you, it is a part of who you are.
3. Decide that even the darkest part of who you are is capable of being loved and is worthy of compassion.
4. Show compassion for all parts of you, no matter what it looks like. 
5. Create a mantra that transforms how you think about those parts that you have given up and pushed to numbness.
6. Do not give up on yourself, but embrace everything that you learn.
7. LOVE all of who you are.

What part of you have you disowned will you embrace in love on today?

On relationships

I am a constant student of life. I am ever evolving. I am called to share what I learn at the level in which it resonates with me because someone is listening and needs to know that there is someone else out there just like me, passing through--just like me. Life is a journey of experiences and in my life’s present experience, I am remembering who I am. You, (who chooses to read my blog) get to share these experiences with me as I learn and grow because a part of who I am allows me to operate in transparency through my writing. You get to be the audience that listens to my heart speak through my fingertips while I continue to find my voice.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on relationships. Particularly the relationships I’ve experienced. I’m wondering about my own ineffectiveness at having a successful relationship with men. I wondered how or why it’s so difficult. There are many reasons, so many. I’ve heard that it's me, I’ve heard it’s them and truthfully I was at a loss as to the reality of it all. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard a man say that my strength is intimidating and I felt like, “if I hear that ONE MORE TIME,” I’m going to snap!!! But I gotta be honest, there is some truth to my strength being too much for a man who isn’t ready for a strong woman. Now, strong doesn’t mean controlling or aggressive--not challenging, it simply means, being assertive, and knowing what you want and not settling, having integrity and character (among other qualities). The reality, the strength of a woman is what should attract a male, not repel him.  

I think the inner misogynistic views of some of our brothas (meaning the secret hate they hold in their heart against women) is one reason why so many relationships fail. The subconscious is real, which is why actions almost never align to words when entertaining some men. It is my belief that our subconscious always leads the way! For instance, in my case, I will always get something in my mind that I will or will not do only to be faced with the action of doing or not doing the opposite. Go figure! To me, it’s a lesson in surrendering to my true self (that’s for another post).

But get this... Sistas, if you have internal negative feelings about self, then you cannot pass the buck onto the men who come into your life... that's the energy you summon--face it, you (we) are a part of the problem too. And… if I’m keeping it real… some of you are secretly operating under misandry. Another reason why so many relationships fail. I admit, it has been the negative feelings I believed about myself that have conjured the type of men that have either been too weak for me, which made me appear to strong for them, abandoned me as I abandon my true self in order to please them, or have broken the trust, as I have subconsciously expected them to eventually lie anyway. Don’t get me wrong, I am not all to blame as we are all fucked up and hiding behind some kind of hurt, but in my grown up self, I must take responsibility. It’s all about awareness. Awareness of self. What I’m trying to say is there was no balance. You gotta KNOW that YOU manifest (whether you believe in the power and law of manifestation or not) who and what YOU are!!!

Ever heard of the Law of Polarity? It is the reason why there is always, always, always an opposite. “Everything is dual. Everything has poles. Everything has its pair of opposites. Like and unlike are the same. Opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree.” (105 Universal Laws; Hughes) For this reason when you see something as it is, know that there is an opposite operating in the Universe. I like to think that one cannot operate without the other. The author also writes about this law, “Like the swing of the pendulum, it always returns where it began. In biblical terms it is expressed as, “Whatsoever a man sows, so shall he reap.” “Do unto others, as you would have them to you.” This principle establishes the paradox or the dual aspects of reality. “Everything that is, has its double, positive and negative, light and darkness, hot and cold, love and fear, mortality and immortality.” That’s why what you put out in the conscious and the subconscious returns back to you. They are equal yet opposite--balanced. Get it?

I am learning that we have to FIRST treat ourselves with the love, compassion, empathy, and understanding that we expect from someone else, because then, we are meeting each other in alignment and there is no need to seek that in another. Be your own soul mate. The relationship with ourselves determine the relationship you will have with someone else.

As for me, I am ending the cycle of falling in love with anything that is externally gratifying and rising up in love with everything that is internally magnetizing, mystifying, and magickal--all that is me.

Peace. Love. Light. #risingupinlove